Sharon Alphonso, Author at Savvy Tokyo

Turn Your Tokyo Apartment Bathroom Into A Place Of Tranquillity

Sharon Alphonso — Wed, 24 Dec 2025 23:00:00 +0000

Approximately 14 million people live in Tokyo, so space is, understandably, at a premium. And if you look at the modern apartments in this bustling city, you’ll notice that most of them have a similar interior design—classic white walls, faux wood flooring and off-white bathrooms. Speaking of the latter, a Tokyo apartment bathroom is often compact, functional and (between us) a little monotonous. However, if you look closer, you will find beauty in monotony.

With a creative spirit, you can transform your small bathroom into a serene haven with these aesthetically pleasing products. Allow me to show you how!

Set The Vibe With Candles

Greetings from my Tokyo bathroom! As you can see, I’ve decorated the room with candles and artificial plants. I intended to create a space that would allow me to recharge and rejuvenate after a long day at work. The LED candles are from Ikea. I think they add a sense of coziness to the space. To create a spa-like experience at home, I often turn off my bathroom lights, play some lo-fi music and put these candles on while I indulge in a relaxing soak and sip on green tea.

Price: ¥1,499
Buy: Ikea

Add Sakura Petals To Your Bath

If you’re obsessed with Japanese cherry blossoms, then you will surely love this Sakura Bath Confetti from Loft. Sprinkle a handful into your bath and the water will slowly transform into a blissful shade of pink. It’s the perfect pick-me-up product when you’re feeling under the weather.

Price: ¥350
Buy: Loft

Pamper Your Skin With Honey

This luxury body wash from Hacci is one of my favorites to use when I want to pamper myself. The mellow honey scent is soothing and it makes the skin feel smooth and smell delicious.

Price: ¥4,950
Buy: Hacci

Mini Plants For The Win

I’m a big fan of artificial plants. They’re low maintenance and look like the real deal. I placed these cute succulents on my bathroom rack to add instant color to my plain white bathroom. It’s a minor detail that contributes to the overall low-key Zen aesthetic.

Price: ¥299
Buy: Ikea

Bathe With Yuzus

You don’t have to visit a sento (public bathhouse) to enjoy a yuzu bath. You can recreate the same experience at home! Yuzus are available throughout the year in Japan; you can buy them at supermarkets or order them online. Bathing with these aromatic citrus fruits will help melt away stress and elevate your mood.

Note: If you can’t find yuzu fruit at the supermarket, they also offer a bath salt versions.

Price: ¥1,000
Buy: Amazon

Buff Away Those Dead Skin Cells

Most body scrubs in the market today are either too harsh or too fragrant. Some of them could even irritate your skin and cause it to flare up. This one from Sabon is the perfect product for sensitive skin. It is a cult favorite among Japanese women for its powerful scent. A bit pricey, but worth every yen! It contains almond and jojoba oil. Not only does it exfoliate your skin to perfection, but it also leaves your skin smelling divine.

Price: ¥3,740
Buy: Sabon

Try Dry Brushing

Japanese washcloths are physical exfoliators made from nylon and polyester. You can use them with or without soap and water to cleanse your body. It is like dry brushing if you use them without water. Besides exfoliating the skin, dry brushing with this washcloth helps improve blood circulation, elevates your mood and makes your skin feel softer and smoother. Living in Tokyo, I’d recommend dry brushing once or twice a week.

Price: ¥799
Buy: Amazon

Organize Your Bath Salts

Bath salts and tablets are readily available and affordable in Japan. I like to keep mine in this large bowl. You can also store them in baskets and mason jars. The idea is to spread them out to know how many are with you. Depending on the size of your bathroom, you can choose the container that is best suited to storing your bath products.

Price: ¥1,430
Buy: Amazon

Invest In A Reed Diffuser

A reed diffuser in your bathroom will make the room smell fresh at all times. Unlike candles and electric diffusers, they don’t burn or require power to work. The one in the picture is from Daiso (yes, Daiso stores in Japan now sell reed diffusers as well!) If you’re looking for fresh scents in your bathroom, consider lavender, musk, eucalyptus, lemongrass, tea tree, citrus and rosemary. These scents will make you feel relaxed throughout the day.

Price: ¥1,800
Buy: Daiso

Bath Bombs For A Luxurious Soak

Lush is one of the best places to shop for bath bombs in Japan. While they offer a variety of them, keep an eye out for the ones exclusive to Japan. I recommend their Temple in the Sky bath bomb. It depicts a sparkly golden Japanese temple and has a fresh citrus scent.

Price: ¥920
Buy: Lush (Japan Only)

I wrote this story to inspire you to transform your cozy Tokyo apartment bathroom space into a sanctuary. If you have more creative design ideas, please share them in the comments below. I’m excited to read yours!

Your Guide To Christmas Tree Shopping in Japan

Sharon Alphonso — Tue, 25 Nov 2025 23:00:00 +0000

The most beautiful time of the year is just a month away! If, like me, you were raised Christian, it will take your first Christmas in Japan to notice that it’s less about religion or family here, and more about a cultural celebration, focusing on aesthetics, atmosphere and romance. What seems familiar everywhere in the world, though, is that a Christmas tree will always be a timeless symbol of the season.

From late November onwards, you’ll find these grand, glittery trees set up in public places such as shopping malls, theme parks, romantic date spots and holiday markets. While owning a Christmas tree at home may not be as widespread here as in Western countries, that’s slowly changing today.

Several Japanese home brands have already begun selling Christmas trees and sparkly ornaments. If you’re thinking about bringing one home this year, let me spoil you with some options!

Where To Buy A Christmas Tree in Japan

The very first decision you need to make is whether you want a real tree or an artificial one. Once you’ve made up your mind, it’s time to explore your options below.

Real Tree Options

Compared to artificial Christmas trees, real ones are expensive and sold at only a handful of stores. The most popular evergreen conifers sold here are the momi (Abies firma, native to the mountainous regions of Kanto and Kansai) and the tohi (Spruce tree native to Hokkaido).

Sales usually begin in mid-November and sell out in early December. Since stock is limited, it’s best to make reservations for them in advance.

IKEA

Starting from November 22, you can buy a real 90-centimeter fir tree from selected IKEA stores in Japan. You won’t be able to purchase them online, so buy them directly at the store.

Sun Florist

This cozy florist shop in Minato will also begin selling real Christmas trees starting from November 22. The starting price of their trees is ¥50,000, and this can increase depending on the size.

Saisyoku Kenbi

Their classic fir tree is back in season this year, and you can choose sizes between 100 and 120 centimeters. Since the ornaments are not included with the tree, you will have to purchase them separately.

Amazon

If direct pick-up isn’t a feasible option for you, you can always order a real fir tree from Amazon and have it delivered to your doorstep.

Has Planning

Instead of buying a tree, you can rent one from here. They source their trees from Gunma Prefecture, and you can choose the size and the type of pot by contacting them online.

Artificial Tree Options

Remember that the more realistic and fuller a tree looks, the higher the price tag. Lower and mid-range Christmas trees have their leaves and needles made from PVC (polyvinyl chloride). This gives them a stiff, plastic-like finish. Higher-end and luxury trees have their needles made from PE (polyethylene) to provide them with a more realistic look and feel.

Depending on your taste and budget, here’s a list of artificial tree options to choose from.

Nitori

They sell a wide range of reasonably priced Christmas trees in various sizes and colors. Some trees even come with LED lights and ornaments. They are also one of the few places in Japan that sell half Christmas trees that are perfect for small apartments.

Niko and…

If you want to splurge on an aesthetic-looking Christmas tree, you’ll find it here. From the pinecones to the volume of the needles and branches, quality and style are guaranteed here.

Deux C

This Christmas tree is slightly more expensive than others because its leaves are made from PE and PVC to give it a realistic appearance. Since the trunk is divided into three large sections, assembling it is easy and time-saving.

Alsace

It is one of the most trusted Japanese Christmas brands here. They focus on creating luxurious, realistic-looking leaves, fuller branches and symmetrical tree silhouettes. Sure, they come with a hefty price tag, but if you think of them as an investment that will last you for five to seven years, it’s worth the splurge!

Francfranc

More than their classic green trees, they are famous for their sparkly pastel pink and white trees. Decorate them with LED lights and delicate baubles, and you’re bound to fetch plenty of compliments on Christmas Day!

Afternoon Tea

Their Christmas trees aren’t like your traditional ones with leaves; they are more of a statement piece. Often covered in flashy ornaments such as pinecones, apples and holly berries from top to bottom.

Keigetsu

They sell stylish and high-quality Christmas trees, and some of them are sold along with ornaments and LED lights. Decorating and assembling the tree is easy, making it a great choice for beginners.

Loft & Hands

Loft’s online store does not do justice to the variety of Christmas trees and decor options they sell in their physical stores. The larger the Loft store, the more Christmas tree sizes and color options you’ll find. On the other hand, while Hands also sells Christmas trees online, it’s rare to see them in their physical stores (unless it’s a large one). If you order them online, they’ll be delivered to you within a week.

Daiso & 3Coins

For those on an extremely tight budget this year, Daiso and 3Coins have got you covered. From ¥1,000 to ¥3,000, you can get yourself a pretty tabletop Christmas tree.

Amazon & Rakuten

Online platforms like these are the fastest and most convenient way to bring home a Christmas tree. Since some trees are sold by third-party sellers, I recommend reading reviews before making any purchase.

Facebook Marketplace & Mercari

There’s always someone selling good-quality Christmas trees at unbelievable prices here. To get a great deal on a tree, you’ll have to check these platforms frequently.

Where To Buy Christmas Ornaments

Now that you know where to buy the Christmas tree, next up is decorating it with pretty ornaments. Stores in Japan often sell ornaments as individual products or as part of a set. These brands will have you spoilt for choice!

Zara Home & H&M Home: They sell stylish and trendy ornaments, available either individually or as a set.
Natural Kitchen: Undoubtedly one of the most underrated places to shop for cutesy and affordable ornaments.
Creema: You will find an array of independent artists here selling handcrafted, one-of-a-kind ornaments.
Christmas Company: From animals to vegetables to sushi, they sell a variety of quirky ornaments here.
FlyingTiger: One of the best places to shop for eccentric and peculiar ornaments to make your tree look playful.
Francfranc: They make soft, metallic and pastel-colored ornaments, sold individually or as a set.
Loft: You can find ornaments of various styles and price points here to suit every budget.
Nitori: Come here to shop for well-designed and reasonably-priced ornaments.
Niko and…: If your Christmas tree’s look is rich and elegant, you’ll find ornaments here that match that vibe.
Daiso & 3 Coins: Apart from shops like Daiso and 3 Coins, which offer items for ¥110 and ¥330, I don’t think you can buy a box of ornaments for under ¥500 anywhere else.
Amazon & Rakuten: Plenty of third-party sellers here that sell a variety of pretty ornaments.
Shein & Temu: A rabbit hole for beautiful and affordable ornaments. The only con is that it takes one to two weeks for your order to arrive in Japan.

As soon as we enter December, Christmas Markets will start opening up in cities all over the country. You’ll be able to buy various ornaments and other decorations at these events, too.

Things To Consider Before Buying

Will The Tree Fit Your Home?

The size of the tree should complement your apartment size and not the other way around. You will often find these sizes in stores.

50-60 cm: Tabletop trees are ideal for studio apartments as they require minimal care and storage space.
80-90 cm: Compact and perfect for 1LDK apartments.
120 cm: Also a good size for 1LDK apartments with small living rooms
150 cm: Works well in a 2LDK apartment without overshadowing furniture.
180 cm: The ideal size tree, great for apartments with big living rooms.
210 cm: A lovely size for a 2/3 LDK apartment, or a small house with high ceilings.
240 cm and higher: May not fit into an average Japanese apartment because of its width and height. However, it works for a space with a large terrace or mini garden.

Set A Budget Aside

High-end Christmas trees, ornaments and other festive decorations can drain your wallet dry if you are not aware of your spending habits. Setting a separate budget aside will take off any financial stress during the holiday season.

When To Buy & Set Up

The best time to buy and put up a Christmas tree in Japan is between mid-November and early December. Keep in mind that real trees need to be purchased slightly earlier than artificial ones, as they are limited in stock.

Explore Delivery Options

Both real and artificial Christmas trees can be heavy to carry for long distances. Either you pick them up by car or get them delivered to your house.

Real Tree Care Tip

Since heaters are kept on throughout winter in Japan, water the plant regularly and keep it near a humidifier to prevent the soil and branches from drying out.

Real Tree Disposable

Some brands offer rental or recycling services. If not, you can shift the tree to a larger pot and move it to your balcony or garden. If the tree does not make it after January, cut it down into smaller pieces and discard it in your regular burnable garbage.

At the end of the day, no matter what type of Christmas tree you bring home, it will fill your home with warmth and positivity. Here’s to having a memorable and happy Christmas in Japan!

Here’s How To Woo Your Japanese Partner’s Parents

Sharon Alphonso — Sat, 15 Nov 2025 23:00:00 +0000

It’s been three long years since I met my Japanese husband’s parents, but the memory remains fresh in my mind. When we met his parents in Nara, I vividly recall feeling nervous yet excited at the same time. As much as I wanted to make a great first impression, I didn’t want to come across as someone trying too hard. Fortunately, everything went smoothly despite the language barrier and cultural differences. While I cannot turn back the clock, I can certainly share some solid relationship advice. Here are a few tips to keep in mind when you meet your Japanese partner’s parents for the first time.

While some of these might be universal, they carry particular importance in Japan. Let’s begin, shall we?

Bow When You First Meet Them

When you meet your Japanese partner’s parents for the first time, bow deeply and hold the position for at least three seconds. This gesture shows respect. As tempting as it may be, avoid going in for firm handshakes, kisses on the cheeks or warm bear hugs. These gestures are uncommon in Japan. Hence, to avoid offending or embarrassing anyone, bowing is a safe way to greet them.

Always Bring A Gift

It’s always a good idea to bring a gift along when meeting someone new. Remember, the present doesn’t have to be extravagant, but thoughtful and practical. Some safe gifting options are edible souvenirs, a bottle of sparkling wine or sake, a fruit basket or even a sweet handwritten note in Japanese.

Work On Your Chopsticks Skills

It’s your chopstick skills that will take your future Japanese in-laws by surprise. If you have mastered them, you will earn plenty of brownie points. According to my husband’s relative, Japanese people secretly judge one’s education level by the way they use their hashi (chopsticks). Hence, practice at home first before meeting them.

Begin by picking up simple food items at first, such as sushi, carrot sticks, dumplings, sticky rice, sliced cheese and cold cuts. As you gain more confidence using chopsticks, try trickier food items, such as natto, peas, beans, nuts, grains and tofu. With practice, you will become a pro in no time!

Practice Speaking Japanese

Even if you don’t possess a Japanese Language Proficiency Test (JLPT) N1 certificate, simple conversational words and phrases will be enough to impress your partner’s parents right away.

You can improve your communication skills by setting an hour aside every day to listen to podcasts, talk with your partner in Japanese or watch anime and YouTube videos. Beginners will enjoy learning Japanese from YouTubers like Japanese Ammo With Misa and Learn Japanese With Puni Puni.

For more advice, check out our article on how to improve your Japanese.

Dress To Impress

A polished, modest outfit will convey thoughtfulness and an awareness of cultural expectations in Japan. Try to dress elegantly and stylishly. Showing too much skin can be distracting and make the people around you feel uncomfortable. Avoid wearing V-neck blouses or mini dresses. Stick to smart casuals instead. Try embracing cardigans, blazers, trousers, black jeans, midi skirts and long-sleeved tops.

Dressing appropriately will help you start the relationship with their family on the right note.

Refrain From Displays Of Affection

Indulging in PDA is a big no-no in Japan. Simply holding hands won’t get you into trouble, but you might get disapproving glances from the parents if you run your fingers through your partner’s hair, plant kisses all over their face or closely lean into them during conversations. Play it cool by keeping your distance and respecting your partner’s cultural boundaries.

Minimal Makeup For The Win!

Did you know that the Japanese people value natural beauty over heavy makeup? The less makeup, the better the skin breathes and looks. When meeting your future in-laws, stick to soft tones in shades of nudes, pinks and browns.

5 Makeup Tips To Keep In Mind

Concealer is a better option than a full-coverage foundation for hiding blemishes. Fewer products will ensure a more natural look.
Red or coral lipstick colors can appear overpowering. Go for a neutral or pink lip tint or lipstick instead.
With mascara-coated lashes and well-groomed eyebrows, your eyes will stand out perfectly.
Keep your look monochromatic: opt for pink lids, lips and cheeks!
Add a little touch of blush on the apples of your cheeks for that fresh, flushed look.

Always Offer to Help!

Whether it’s helping with the dishes or clearing the table after the meal, always be willing to offer help (even when it’s not asked of you). Most of the time, they won’t let you lift a finger. However, as a sign of courtesy and good upbringing, always offer help.

Last but not least, have fun with it. It’s natural to make mistakes a few times, but do not let that discourage you. As long as your words and actions come from a pure place, they will love and accept you.

If you find yourself in a bind, ask your partner for help or follow what everyone else is doing. There isn’t the slightest doubt in my mind that you’ll do amazingly well. Good luck!

Things To Keep In Mind Before Marrying A Japanese Salaryman

Sharon Alphonso — Sat, 16 Aug 2025 23:00:00 +0000

According to my Japanese husband, Japanese people have a strong work ethic. Marrying a Japanese salaryman, I’ve seen firsthand how hard he works at his job, and it’s easy to believe this. Having worked at one of India’s most successful digital startups, I can relate to the intense work culture in Japan. With tight deadlines and high pressure, it’s natural to get consumed by work.

I also realized that this kind of relationship might not be ideal for every foreigner. If you’re considering marrying a Japanese salaryman and moving to Japan, it’s important to understand their professional background to build a deeper connection. Based on my own experience, here’s some advice before you take that step.

Long Hours At Work = Less Couple Time

Company loyalty is highly appreciated and encouraged in Japan. The longer employees stay at the office, the harder working the company perceives them. Some will not leave the office until their manager is done for the day, too.

Although this quality is admirable from a corporate standpoint, it may negatively impact personal lives outside of work. Without a proper work-life balance, it becomes very difficult to meet the emotional needs of others.

How To Deal With It

Find the time to do things together
Make a conscious effort to follow through on your plans

My Experience

Due to our busy schedules, my husband and I do our best to work around the time we have left. We always have one meal together, either dinner or breakfast. If we have more time on our hands, we hit the gym, watch a drama on Netflix, or go out for a walk at night.

The Infamous ‘Drinking Nights’

Nomikai (drinking parties) are an essential part of the work culture in Japan. These drinking gatherings allow employees to blow off steam and bond with their co-workers. Coming home late and intoxicated could be problematic to your relationship if you don’t have the nomikai culture in your country.

At times, you can’t entirely blame your Japanese partner for joining these gatherings. Depending on their office rank, they may not be in a position to opt out of these drinking parties. If they do, it could hamper their relationships at work.

How To Deal With It

Suggest compromises. If you can’t stop them from attending, then they can at least limit their alcohol intake, keep you in the loop or update you on their whereabouts.
If your partner does come home intoxicated, avoid arguing. It will only complicate things. The wisest thing to do is to sleep on it. Address the issue calmly the following morning.

My Experience

Socializing and building a professional network are essential for any profession. I understand that nomikai events help my husband socialize with his team and build stronger bonds at work. If we do go out without the other, we make sure to share our locations and an emergency contact just in case our phones become unreachable. This open line of communication helps us stay on the same page.

Living Dual Lives

According to my husband, Japanese people are selective about who they let into their inner circle. They rarely mix their personal and professional lives to maintain harmony and tranquility.

How To Deal With It

Respect your partner’s decisions and views. They are the building blocks for a rock-solid relationship. After all, each of us manages our outside relationships differently.
Don’t mirror your partner’s actions if they do not resonate with yours. Don’t hesitate to introduce your partner to your close and trusted colleagues. You never know, he may feel inspired to do the same. And if not, it’s nothing to be offended by.

My Experience

My husband and I are both transparent about our professional and personal lives. Although we have met each other’s colleagues before, it is rare for us to hang out together. Maintaining healthy boundaries between work and home is essential to both of us.

When we are together, we try not to talk about work (unless one of us wants to share something in particular about our day). We focus more on spending time with ourselves and doing activities we both enjoy.

Expect Plenty Of Business Trips

There’s a Netflix show called Bullet Train Bistro. It’s about a salaryman who travels around Japan for business and treats himself to delicious food while traveling back home in a shinkansen (bullet train).

I watched this show, wondering how his family coped when he was not home. His busy schedule could have easily caused him to miss numerous important family events. Also, his spouse has to do most of the housework and child-rearing.

It seems this is the reality for many married couples in Japan. If your Japanese partner travels for work frequently, most of the household responsibilities may fall upon you. The work may even double if you have a demanding job in Japan as well. Would you be able to take on both roles?

How To Deal With It

Keep busy and have a support line outside of the home. This can prevent you from feeling homesick, lonely or dependent.
Search for new friends on socializing apps such as Bumble BFF, join a language school, attend a workshop or even join a group on Facebook. This can help fill your mind with fresh ideas and spark new conversations with your Japanese partner.

My Experience

For me, having a supportive partner is a bonus and blessing. However, learning to do tasks by myself is equally liberating. Thus, whenever I feel stuck and homesick, I remember to be kind and patient with myself.

Work will always play a significant role in any relationship. The best you can do for each other is be kind and supportive. Make sure to get to know each other and your cultural backgrounds before settling down. If you get the chance to live with them before marriage, take it. This experience could give you a heads-up on what married life with them would be like.

After all, marriage should not feel like a compromise. It’s about creating memories with that special someone, communicating feelings effectively, helping each other grow and powering through this crazy thing called life together.

Couples’ support can always be found if needed. For more information, check out this list of counseling services in Tokyo.

Valentine’s Day Gifts Japanese Men Want From Women

Sharon Alphonso — Mon, 10 Feb 2025 23:00:00 +0000

It’s no secret that Valentine’s Day in Japan is celebrated differently from the rest of the world. Instead of men and women exchanging gifts, women give chocolates and presents to men on February 14th, and men return the favor exactly a month later on “White Day.” With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, many women here feel pressured to choose the perfect present—something that reflects their feelings while keeping their crush’s preferences in mind. If you’re new to life here and have your eyes on a certain Japanese man, you’ve come to the right place! Rather than offering general advice, we’ve asked a few Japanese men to share their thoughts on the best Valentine’s Day gifts Japanese men would love to receive. Here’s what they had to say!

1. A Small Box Of Fancy Chocolates

“If it’s your first time celebrating V-Day in Japan, a small box of good quality chocolates is a safe choice for someone you like. Something that costs anywhere between ¥1,500 to ¥2,000. Avoid spending more than that as the guy would feel pressured to prepare an even more expensive item in return on White Day.” —Mr. M, Company Employee.

Where to buy it: Department stores like Takashimaya, Isetan or Mitsukoshi, chocolate shops or hotel pastry boutiques.

2. Stylish & Practical Workwear

“Aside from chocolates, men also appreciate fashion accessories like ties, tie pins, cufflinks and socks that they can wear to the office. These thoughtful, practical gifts will make him think of you whenever he wears them.” —Mr. Y, Company Employee

Where to buy it: Department stores and men’s wear shops in these shopping districts.

3. Limited Edition Products

“Most Japanese men love branded and limited-edition products. Owning something rare symbolizes scarcity, exclusivity and personal style. We also love receiving chocolates wrapped in aesthetic packaging. An attractive box will make your Valentine’s Day present more memorable.” —Mr. N, Company Director

Where to buy it: High-end brand shops (think Ginza), handmade one-of-a-kind shops (go to areas like Yanaka Ginza, Kappabashi, Koenji, Shimokitazawa, Aoyama or Daikanyama, or look out for the word 限定品 (genteihin; “limited edition.”)

4. Good Quality Innerwear Staples

“While fashion items like bags, wallets, handkerchiefs, watches and outerwear are great V-Day gift options, they will not be well received if they do not align with your crush’s personal style. A safer gifting option would be good-quality undershirts and underwear. Preferably neutral-colored ones so they can match multiple outfits.” —Mr. K, Company Employee

Where to buy it: Department stores and men’s wear shops in these shopping districts. Or, keep it simple with stuff from Uniqlo or Muji, or check online on Gunze or B.V.D.

5. It’s The Thought That Counts

“When selecting a Valentine’s Day gift for someone, avoid going over the top and splurging on expensive gifts. Instead, choose something small with a subtle meaning. It could be a book, a cute trinket, a poem, a type of flower or an item that reminded you of them. What matters is the sentiment and thought behind the gift, not the extravagant price tag or size.” —Mr. T, PR Consultant

Where to buy it: There are heaps of trinkets at these variety shops or DIY something using stuff from the 100 yen shop or art supply shop.

6. An Impromptu Coffee Date

“Like women, men too like to be taken out on dates. Treating him to a meal, a coffee or a pastry at his favorite cafe will surely make his day. Also, a cafe setting is the perfect place to spend quality time together.” —Mr. M, Company Employee

Where to buy it: Here’s a list of outdoor dates to take him on, some last minute date ideas or check out these traditional cafes.

7. Handmade Chocolates For The Win!

“There’s nothing more heartwarming than receiving tezukuri choco (handmade chocolates) on Valentine’s Day. The fact that a woman took the time and effort to make them indicates her romantic feelings. Ladies, do not feel shy about experimenting with cute animal shapes like bears, rabbits, cats and birds because we love receiving them!” —Mr. H, Company Employee

Where to buy it: You can get all the supplies you need from variety shops, supermarkets and 100 yen shops! Try this Valentine’s cheesecake recipe, two easy chocolate recipes or these healthy Valentine’s chocolate hearts.

8. Seasonal Items Are Always Welcome

“Since Japan is big on seasonal items, selecting a Valentine’s Day gift based on it is clever. For example, since it’s still winter, gifting gloves, mufflers, earmuffs or hand warmers could be appropriate gifts for the season. Even customized items like having his initials embroidered on a bag, hand towel or t-shirt pocket would be a sweet gesture.” —Mr. M, Company Employee

Where to buy it: Department stores or variety shops.

At the end of the day, the perfect Valentine’s Day gift isn’t about how much you spend or how rare the item is—it’s about the thought and effort behind it. So, even if it is just a simple box of chocolates, what truly matters is showing your appreciation in a way that feels personal and heartfelt. Don’t stress too much about picking the “perfect” gift—chances are, he’ll be happy just knowing you thought of him!

What do you plan to give as Valentine’s Day gifts to the Japanese men in your life? Let us know! Or, maybe you plan to get something for yourself instead? Fair enough, here are our recommendations on gifts to give yourself this Valentine’s Day.

What’s Japandi? Interior Decor Tips For Your Next Home Makeover

Sharon Alphonso — Wed, 16 Oct 2024 23:00:00 +0000

It’s the perfect season for a cozy home makeover. Opting for deep colors, warm neutrals and earthy accents helps create a more welcoming and relaxing space. While you could gravitate towards the classic cottage-core aesthetic, how about experimenting with an interior design trend called “Japandi”?

Japandi is a blend of Japanese and Scandinavian minimalist design aesthetics. Similar to cottage-core, it focuses on cozy settings, natural elements and simple living while staying true to Japanese and Scandinavian philosophies like “wabi-sabi” (finding beauty in imperfection) and “hygge” (comfort and coziness). If you’re passionate about interior design, Japandi is one hot trend to play around with this fall.

Creative Ways To Give Your Home A Japandi Makeover

Remember, to fit the “Japandi” aesthetic, look for items made from natural materials with clean, functional designs. With that in mind, let’s move forward!

Stick To A Warm Neutral Color Palette

From the color of your sofa to cushions, wallpapers, curtains, bed sheets, rugs and throw blankets, opt for a softer, muted palette like:

Beige
Earthy Brown
Pastels
Eggshell White
Taupe
Grey
Sage

Softer hues are gentle on the eyes and create a warm ambiance in your home.

Savvy Decor Tip

Adding wall texture can create a refreshing contrast between neutral furniture and artsy wallpapers. How elegant would an accent wall featuring lines, wooden panels and Spanish knife texture look?

Keep It Natural

When shopping for furniture and home decor, choose pieces made from:

Oak Wood
Thin Glass
Natural Bamboo
Rattan
Rustic Stones
Washi Paper
Handmade Ceramics

These pieces are not only aesthetically pleasing but also eco-friendly and free from chemicals. Low wooden furniture, sliding shoji doors, warm lighting and items made from natural materials help create a zen-like atmosphere.

Savvy Decor Tip

If you have extra space to spare, add a tiny water feature to your home. Whether you choose a tabletop fountain, an indoor pond or a tetsu bachi (Japanese water basin) with a sleek bamboo dispenser, your home will feel like a haven of peace and tranquility.

Invest In Key Furniture Pieces

To know whether a piece of furniture fits the Japandi aesthetic, it should be functional, stylish and minimalistic. Furniture that’s closer to the ground creates a stronger connection to nature. That means low beds, sofas, coffee tables, shelving units and chairs. Add warmth to your place by opting for woven rugs, lantern lamps, tatami mats and throw cushions.

Savvy Decor Tip

Accent chairs, low sofas and pendant lamps are great ways to add freshness and personality to neutral spaces.

You could also display two or three dainty branches in a vase, a three-wick scented candle or frame a traditional patterned tenugui (decorative towel) for a centerpiece.

Plants Freshen Up Your Home

Plants breathe life into monotonous spaces. Decorating your home with indoor plants invites positive energy, improves air quality, enhances mood, reduces stress and balances humidity levels. Even owning a few plants is a fantastic way to connect with nature and bring a sense of the outdoors indoors.

Savvy Decor Tip

Japandi-style plants tend to be more sculptural and big on personality. Think ficus benjamin, bonsai, olive tree, polyscias wing, kokedama plants and monstera. If you do not have the time and energy to care for live plants, you can opt for artificial ones.

Choose Natural Fabrics

Sure, fabrics like nylon, polyester, rayon and acrylic are less expensive than natural fabrics, but in the long run, they are harmful to your health and the environment. While natural fabrics like cotton, linen, hemp and wool cost more, they are biodegradable, comfortable, durable and sustainable.

Savvy Decor Tip

We’re obsessed with this organic cotton cushion cover, this round reed sitting cushion and this wool carpet.

Select Japanese Patterns

Once you’ve purchased your natural fabric and decor items, the next step is choosing patterns. Don’t shun away from experimenting; let your creativity flow freely with this one. Japanese patterns like hishi (diamond), same komon (shark skin), seigaiha (blue ocean waves), asanoha (hemp leaf pattern) complement the Japandi aesthetic.

Savvy Decor Tip

Here are some elegant furniture and decor pieces with Japanese patterns that we’ve found: this pottery ware set, this cushion cover and this folkdrakter tablecloth.

Invite Natural Light Into Your Home

Natural light makes your home look more inviting and lively. South and East-facing homes receive the best sunlight. If your home does not attract enough natural light, fill your space with warm, mood lights. These can cultivate a relaxing, romantic and focused environment.

Savvy Decor Tip

Lamps like this donut lamp, this Japanese paper lantern, this sunset lamp, this washi pendant light and this glass lamp are perfect for setting the vibe.

Add Pops Of Color Sparingly

When decorating your home in a Japandi style, keep statement decor items to a bare minimum. Look for bright art paintings and pieces with simple lines and uncomplicated patterns. Mustard yellow, lemon yellow, olive green, seafoam, pale lavender, mint green and baby pink are easy-to-see colors.

Savvy Decor Tip

Some decor item ideas could be art prints, bowls, decorative plates and table decor.

And, Don’t Forget…

Spacing and Alignment

Furniture and decor items should be aligned carefully to create a sense of balance and harmony. The spacing need not be perfect since the goal is to give the room a more organic and natural look. Every item on display should serve a purpose, and the space between them must be enough to maintain an airy atmosphere and facilitate easy movement.

To Declutter

Follow Marie Kondo’s method of only keeping things that serve a purpose and bring joy. Developing a less-is-more approach to decluttering can bring positivity and happiness to your home.

Follow The Minimalist Path

The fewer furniture and decor pieces you have, the more spacious the room appears. Creating an obstacle-free layout allows light, positivity and ventilation to flow into your house. Be mindful of your spending habits by purchasing quality goods over quantity. Decluttering your whole house in one go can be an exhausting and overwhelming experience. Space it out into sections. Focus on one room/shelf/cupboard at a time to prevent burnout.

By now, we hope you’re feeling inspired enough to decorate your home for fall. Keep in mind, the core of the Japandi aesthetic is simplicity, minimalism, sustainability and functionality.

Happy designing!

30 Shops To Customize Products in Tokyo

Sharon Alphonso — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 23:00:00 +0000

Several stores offer services that allow you to customize their products in Tokyo! By choosing the color, design and material, you can be part of the whole creative process. These products not only make unique gifts but also excellent souvenirs.

Brands That Let You Engrave Their Products
Brands That Let You Customize Their Products
Brands That Offer Unique Customization Options

Brands That Let You Engrave Their Products

Have your name, birth date or personal mantra engraved at any of the stores below.

Kama-Asa for Hand-Graved Kitchen Knives
Shu Uemura for Personalized Beauty Products
Hacoa Direct Store for Detailed Wooden Items
Color Chart at Itoya for Stylish Leather Items
Hands for Fancy Pens
Mokumeganeya for Elegant Rings
Ginza Natsuno for Contemporary Chopsticks
Kakimori for Iconic Notebooks
Stock Plus for Tradional Senjafuda Charms
Uzumako Ceramic Art School for Japanese Pottery Classes

Brands That Let You Customize Their Products

Get involved in the creative process.

1. Tabio for Cute Socks

Choose from several embroidery patterns, such as numbers, letters, animals and flowers. It usually takes two weeks for your order to reach your home.

building name, floor number, address number, area, city, and prefecture.

Address: Ginza Six 4F, 6−10−1 Ginza, Chuo City, Tokyo

2. Uniqlo for The Trendy Dumpling Bag

The mini shoulder bag is available at every Uniqlo store in Tokyo. However, if you want the one with cute embroidery, visit their Ginza stores! Due to increased demand, it used to be possible to get it done the same day, but now it takes about two weeks.

Note: In addition to the embroidery feature, the Uniqlo stores at Ginza also offer a tote and T-shirt printing service. You can choose a design from their catalog or send your own in a PDF file.

Address: Ginza Komatsu East Building 1−12F, 6-9-5 Ginza, Chuo City, Tokyo

3. Levis for Snazzy Jeans and Jackets

A Levis pair of jeans or jacket is a must-have fashion piece. After all, they are classic, top quality and last for years! Their Harajuku store in Tokyo offers in-house customization services with an expert tailor. You can express your creativity by embellishing your Levi’s item with patches, buttons, studs or ribbons.

Address: Jingumae Green Terrace, 6-16-12 Jingumae, Shibuya City, Tokyo

4. White Atelier by Converse For Character All-Star Sneakers

White Converse sneakers are a must-have fashion. Visit the White Atelier by Converse store in Shibuya to add your personal touch to them. The first step involves choosing a base model. After that, you’ll need to design, and you can choose from stickers, fonts, and colors to customize your product. They occasionally partner with niche artists, so check their website often for the latest details.

Address: HOLONⅢ 1F, 6-16-5 Jingumae, Shibuya City, Tokyo

5. U-Dot For Custom-made Shoes

At U-Dot, you can create a shoe from scratch. The kind of shoe that matches both your style and personality. You first have to choose the design for your shoe, then pick a color and material. Add extra flair to your shoes by customizing them with zippers and buckles.

Address: 6-13-5 Asakusa, Taito City, Tokyo

6. Muji For Pretty Embroidered Towels, Tees & Totes

For things simple, minimal and detailed, shop at Muji. Their Ginza store is massive and offers additional services like a juice bar, bakery, tea blending and a design studio. If you opt for their design service, you will have access to 200+ patterns and texts that you can use to personalize Muji T-shirts, bags and towels.

Address: 3-3-5 Ginza, Chuo City, Tokyo

7. Printone For Personalized Tees, Totes, Water Bottles, Mugs

At Printone in Shibuya, you can design your tee and have it printed on the same day! In addition to tees and hoodies, they also offer customization services for mugs, water bottles, tote bags, mini handkerchiefs and key chains. It is a great place to shop for last-minute gifts when you are pressed for time.

Address: Coast Shibuya Bldg, 24-2 Udagawacho, Shibuya City, Tokyo

8. Loft For Printed Bottles, Stickers, Keychains & Totes

Don’t miss out on shopping for souvenirs at the Loft in Ginza. From stationery to beauty products to kitchenware, everything is under one roof. Unlike other Loft stores in Tokyo, the Ginza one has a customization booth on the fifth floor. You can purchase products like keychains, tote bags, stickers and water bottles and get them designed or printed right there.

Address: Ginza Belvia Building 1F-5F, 2-4-6 Ginza, Chuo City, Tokyo

9. Betty Smith Jeans For Chic Jeans

You do not need to travel to Okayama or Kurashiki to get a pair of Betty Smith Jeans. You can buy and customize jeans at the Betty Smith Smith Factory in Ebisu. Reservations are required, so make sure you make one before visiting.

Address: NN States Building 5F, 2-4-7 Ebisu Nishi, Shibuya City, Tokyo

10. Tokyo Kimono Shoes For Upcycled Sneakers

This Asakusa shoe shop fuses recycled kimono fabric with quality leather to create new sneakers. At Tokyo Kimono Shoes, customers can choose the materials, design and colors to create a unique pair of shoes.

Address: 2-11-9 Hanakawado, Taito City, Tokyo

Brands That Offer Unique Customization Options

These Japanese brands in Tokyo take personalization to a whole new level!

1. Pillow Stand For The Perfect Pillow

Good quality pillows are essential for a peaceful night’s sleep. At the Pillow Stand in Tokyo, you can make a custom pillow by choosing the color, filling and material. You can also talk to a dedicated salesperson about which pillow is right for you. Since it’s custom-made, it is a little more expensive than regular pillows. Expect the price to fall from ¥13,200 to ¥44,000.

Address: LUMINE1 7F, 2-5-1 Yurakucho, Chiyoda City, Tokyo

2. Kuma Koubou For Fluffy Teddy Bears

If you’re looking for a low-maintenance furry companion, get a teddy bear from Kuma Koubou. Their online store ships not only to Tokyo but also to all of Japan. On the website, you can choose the fur color, eye shape and size of the teddy bear. Custom-made, each one makes a lovely gift for yourself or a friend.

Address: Web Store

3. My Sake Japan For a Designer Sake Bottle

Have you ever wanted your own design on a sake bottle filled with your favorite flavor notes? My Sake Japan can grant you that wish! They design the labels and packaging. The sake is from Niigata prefecture, and after selecting a label design, you can choose your flavors.

Address: Web Store

4. Japanese Name Stamp Hanko For A Personalized Seal

Like a handwritten signature, a hanko is a personal seal in Japan. Although you can make hanko at any hanko shop in Japan, whether you have a Japanese name or not, this website, in particular, is foreigner-friendly and will ship the product directly to your home. If you do not reside in Japan, this website also has an international shipping option.

Address: Web Store

5. Senchado For Creating Unique Tea Blends

This little tea shop in Ginza is famous for its tea blends. With the guidance of an in-house staff member, you can create your own tea blend. The store also sells experience kits. In a fancy-looking tin, you will find tea blends, a recipe and a name label. Tea lovers will adore this gift!

Address: 5-10-10 Ginza, Chuo City, Tokyo

6. Imai Naya For Artsy Daruma Dolls

Daruma are traditional Japanese dolls whose colors denote different meanings. At the Imai Daruma online store, you can customize your own Daruma doll. Additionally, you can hire an in-house artist to customize a Daruma based on your creative input.

Address: Web Store

7. Kaori Bar Finca For Finding Your Signature Scent

Searching for your signature scent? You might find it at Kaori Bar Finca in Shinjuku. With over 60 scents at the store, the staff will help find the perfect scent. Customers can create custom blends by layering scents and choosing their favorites.

Address: 6-10-1 Shinjuku, Shinjuku City, Tokyo

8. Ibasen For Modish Folding Hand Fans

A folding hand fan is one of the most common souvenirs tourists buy in Japan. However, if you’re looking for a personalized one, check out Ibasen. You can customize the fan color, choose a design, and even add a personalized name in calligraphy. If you order yours online, it will reach your doorstep in two weeks.

Address: Ibasen Building 1F, 4-1 Nihonbashi Kobunacho, Chuo City, Tokyo

9. TokiiRo For Flashy Watches

TokiiRo may look like a regular stationery shop on the outside, but if you step in, you will find a watch customization section. With various colorful straps, you can create a watch you’ll be proud to wear.

Address: Nagatsuka Building 1F, 4-4-7 Jingumae, Shibuya City, Tokyo

10. Ancora For Slender Fountain Pens

You can create your own fountain pen at the Ancora store in Ginza. Don’t worry! The staff will guide you through the selection of its color, body, lid, and nib. The fountain pen, coupled with colored ink, makes a lovely souvenir from Tokyo.

Address: 6-4-8 Ginza, Chuo City, Tokyo

In most cases, you can customize your products at the store and take them home the same day. However, some stores may require additional time to customize your products due to high demand. One way to get your product surely and quickly is to order them in advance online and collect them when you visit Tokyo.

Do you want to customize a product in Tokyo? Let us know what you would want to customize!

The Best Japanese Shows To Get A Sense Of Tokyo

Sharon Alphonso — Tue, 23 Apr 2024 23:00:00 +0000

Although seeing Tokyo in person is an unforgettable experience, web series today capture the city’s essence well. Through the lens of the characters, you will not only get a virtual tour of Tokyo but will also get to see a raw and unfiltered side to it. From comedies to dramas and thrillers, this list of Japanese web shows set in Tokyo has a little something for everyone.

Tokyo Girl

Japanese actress, Asami Mizukawa, plays the role of Aya in Tokyo Girl. In the story, a young woman in her 20s moves from a small town in Akita to Tokyo to find her place in the world. As she slowly adapts to her new life in Tokyo, she encounters challenging situations in her professional and personal life. This Tokyo web show mixes drama, romance and comedy with a bittersweet tone.

Japanese title: 東京女子図鑑 / Tokyo Joshi Zukan
Genre: Drama
English Subtitles: Yes
Watch Here: Amazon Prime

Why you will love it:

Aya’s story is relatable to most single and career-driven women.
You will explore popular places in Tokyo like Harajuku, Roppongi Hills, Ebisu district, Ginza, Toyosu and Yoyogi Uehara.
You get a perspective on how dating and romantic relationships work in Japan.

Modern Love Tokyo

Modern Love Tokyo is a seven-episode web series that explores love in various forms and touches on sensitive topics about relationships, life and work issues that Tokyo residents face. From the struggles of a working mother juggling work and motherhood to the journey of an understanding husband helping his wife overcome depression—there is a wholesome story for everyone.

Japanese title: モダンラブ・東京 / Modanrabu Tokyo
Genre: Comedy, Drama, Romance
English Subtitles: Yes
Watch Here: Amazon Prime

Why you will love it:

Each episode is fresh and tells a unique love story unconnected to the other.
It brings up topics rarely discussed in Japanese society—mental health, affairs, relationship failures and work issues.
Making it unique to Japan, there’s also an anime episode at the end of the series.

Mischievous Kiss: Love in Tokyo

Another show based on a manga series is Mischievous Kiss: Love in Tokyo. It is about a female high school student, Kotoko Aihara, who falls in love with the most popular boy in school, Naoki Irie. Initially, it’s a one-sided love story, but in the later episodes, Naoki falls in love with Kotoko.

Japanese title: イタズラなKiss-Love in Tokyo / Itazurana Kiss-Love in Tokyo
Genre: Comedy, Drama and Romance.
English Subtitles: Yes
Watch Here: Amazon

Why you will love it:

Expect to be entertained with lots of fun dialogues and high school drama.
You will learn about Japanese kokuhaku (love confessions) and high school romance in Japan.

Alice in Borderland

Like Midnight Diner, Alice in Borderland started as a manga series and became a live-action web series. The story revolves around a group of youngsters who battle for their lives by winning sadistic games in a parallel world. It explores themes of survival and strategy while the main characters navigate their way back to the real world.

Japanese title: 今際の国のアリス / Imawa no kuni no Arisu
Genre: Thriller
English Subtitles: Yes
Watch Here: Netflix

Why you will love it:

The plot is thrilling and will keep viewers on the edge of their seats.
A rare opportunity to see Tokyo in a different light—empty roads, large outdoor spaces and quiet surroundings. Almost abandoned and soulless.
Viewers will be impressed by the visual effects and action sequences.

Sanctuary

Based in Tokyo, this show is about a young, rowdy sumo wrestler who gains a following by going against the industry’s traditional ways. It is an eight-episode series packed with action, drama and soul. The first and middle part of the series is about the main character, Enno, struggling to find his place in the sumo world. As the series progresses, he evolves and becomes more proficient in his skill set and spirit.

Japanese title: サンクチュアリ-聖域 / Sankuchuari: Seiiki
Genre: Drama
Subtitles: Yes
Watch Here: Netflix

Why you will love it:

You get to dive deep into the world of a sumo wrestler. Witness their highs and lows and learn that it is always not as easy as it looks.
Watchers will learn uncommon slang Japanese words seldom heard in society.

Aggretsuko

A Sanrio original, Aggretsuko is a Japanese anime series on Netflix. The show revolves around Retsuko Chan, a 25-year-old red panda living in Tokyo. She works in the accounting department of a traditional Japanese trading firm. It highlights the challenges young women experience in the Japanese corporate world, office politics and societal expectations. After work, Retsuko often visits a Karaoke booth to jam to Death Metal beats to blow off steam.

Japanese title: アグレッシブ烈子 / Aggresshibu Retsuko
Genre: Anime
English Subtitles: Yes
Watch Here: Netflix

Why you will love it:

The show addresses real-life workplace issues like burnout, micromanagement, hierarchy and office politics that only a few openly discuss.
This anime perfectly captures Tokyo’s hustle and bustle energy—with the neon lights, crowded trains, nomikai (drinking party) nights, futuristic skyscrapers and photogenic food.
Death metal fans will be thrilled to share the same passion with this Sanrio character.

Tokyo Vice

Based on a true story, Tokyo Vice is a crime drama that shows a realistic side of Japan’s criminal world. Jake Adelstein, an American crime journalist, investigates Tokyo’s underworld with the help of a police detective.

Japanese title: トウキョウ・バイス / Tokyo Baisu
Genre: Drama
Subtitles: Yes
Watch Here: Netflix

Why you will love it:

It’s one of the few Japanese web shows about Tokyo with a foreign lead actor.
It brings up the unglamorous side of Tokyo where crime is involved.
You will witness the hardships most foreigners initially face at a Japanese company.

What Did You Eat Yesterday?

This Japanese drama series is about the daily life and struggles of a gay couple living in Tokyo. One of the main characters, Shiro Kakei, is a lawyer, and the other, Kenji Yabuki, is a hairdresser. While the couple have different professions and personalities, they share a common love for food.

Japanese title: きのう何食べた？/ Kinou nani tabeta?
Genre: Drama
Subtitles: Yes
Watch Here: Netflix

Why you will love it:

This is one of the few web shows in Japan that shines a light on the LGBTQ+ community. It’s fresh, different and offers an honest depiction of queer life in Tokyo.
Food has a big emphasis in the series. Not only will viewers get a glimpse of Japanese cooking, but also learn the importance of food bringing people together.

Midnight Diner: Tokyo Stories

Based on the manga series “Shinya Shokudo”, this show is set in Shinjuku and tells the stories of a chef and his customers. The diner is a safe space for customers from all walks of life to enjoy a meal and share their problems, successes and life experiences. For those who enjoy storytelling, originality, emotions and character development, this one will not disappoint.

Japanese title: 深夜食堂 / Shinya Shokudo
Genre: Drama
Subtitles: Yes
Watch Here: Netflix

Why you will love it:

You will get an idea of the Izakaya culture and nightlife in Tokyo.
In each episode, the chef shares a new food recipe. If you are interested in Japanese food and cooking, you will learn plenty from the chef.
The chef often offers valuable life advice to his customers (which can also benefit the viewers).

Solitary Gourmet

Solitary Gourmet is about a Japanese businessman who visits local restaurants all over Japan (but mainly in Tokyo) after his work meetings. Most of the time, he visits a variety of niche neighborhoods alone and samples various delicacies. While eating, he mentally describes the food’s taste and texture poetically.

Japanese title: 孤独のグルメ / Kodoku no Gurume
Genre: Drama
English Subtitles: No
Watch Here: Netflix

Why you will love it:

You can virtually explore local restaurants and niche neighborhoods in Tokyo.
You get introduced to a variety of cuisines not only native to Japan but all around the world.
His expressions are neutral, but his mental comments are dramatic.

Which one of these Japanese shows based in Tokyo will you be binge-watching over the weekend?

12 Japanese Essential Oils for a Zen State of Mind

Sharon Alphonso — Wed, 25 Oct 2023 23:00:00 +0000

Lessons I Learned About Body Positivity After Visiting A Japanese Hot Spring

Sharon Alphonso — Fri, 06 May 2022 01:00:00 +0000

I am probably one of the few Indians brave enough to visit an onsen in Japan. Where I am from, it is unheard of in our culture to bathe naked among strangers—or even friends and family. We’re taught from a young age to respect our bodies by covering up. Most Indian families encourage modest dressing too. Any clothing item revealing too much skin is a big no-no. Because of my upbringing, I had a tough time initially adjusting to the onsen culture in Japan.

My first onsen experience took place in Hakone in 2017. My sister and I were backpacking around the country and wanted to experience a part of Japanese culture firsthand. Visiting a hot spring together has always been on our travel bucket list, and now that we were in Japan, we could finally tick it off the list.

I admired how free and comfortable they seemed with their bodies.

I found the onsen experience very eye-opening. It was the first time for me to see women being comfortable with nudity and using the place as an opportunity to bond with their friends and family. I admired how free and comfortable they seemed with their bodies. This experience inspired me to build a similar relationship with mine. It wasn’t something that happened overnight, though. I had to broaden my perspective and rethink some of my beliefs.

The more time I spent in the hot spring, the more comfortable I felt in my own skin. Along the way, I learned a few valuable lessons about body positivity, which I would like to share with you.

We’re more conscious of our bodies than those around us

It took me a couple of trips to the hot spring to realize that the only person who was overly conscious of my body was myself. As long as I followed proper onsen etiquette, no one there seemed to mind whether my hair wasn’t in a perfect bun or that I had prominent love handles. Everyone was busy doing their own thing, focusing on themselves. It became a place where I could let down my walls without being judged.

Accepting your body boosts confidence

I admire how comfortable Japanese women are with their bodies in the onsen. No matter their age or physique, women don’t seem to be bothered by their tummy rolls, wrinkles, body hair, scars or marks on their bodies. Thanks to these women, I’ve gained a new level of confidence in my body. They taught me to accept it the way it is rather than wanting it to look a certain way. That realization itself is liberating.

Nudity is nothing to be ashamed of

I grew up in a society that often judged a woman’s character and morals based on her clothing choice. I was often fearful of getting ridiculed by random strangers—covering up my body felt like the safest option. The experience dented my relationship with my bare body. Both my self-confidence and body image took a hit in the process. If my sister hadn’t convinced me to visit an onsen, I doubt I would have ever gone to one.

Seeing women together in the onsen, comfortable with their bare bodies, inspired me to accept nudity and form a more positive body image.

The trip with my sister changed everything. I gained a fresh perspective on life and became more open to the concept of nudity. Seeing women together in the onsen, comfortable with their bare bodies, inspired me to accept nudity and form a more positive body image.

The importance of getting to know your body

I spent most of my life rarely developing a close relationship with my body. The onsen was my moment of awakening. Instead of feeling judged or looked down upon, I felt accepted by the women around me. This gave me the mindset and space I’d always needed to get to know my own body better. Instead of focusing on the negative aspects of my body, taking a warm soak put me in tune with what was happening within. I submerged into a deep meditative state which allowed me to direct my attention to the uncomfortable areas in my body. Instead of fixating on how I looked, the onsen taught me to focus on releasing the tension and pain my body has gone through living out day-to-day life.

Self-care effectuates self-love and happiness

When I’m in the onsen, all the stress in my body magically melts away. The warm water, soothing sounds and overall atmosphere make me feel at one with nature and my existence. I come out feeling relaxed, clear-headed and refreshed. Onsen gives me those few precious hours of me-time to detox, embrace body insecurities and have honest conversations with myself. My skin glows brighter, my muscles relax and my body radiates positive energy. In a way, this place has become one of my favorite self-care rituals for a happier mind and body.

The onsen has become an important part of my life here in Japan. I often visit alone to unwind, relax and take a break from reality. The experience has pushed me out of my comfort zone, challenged my core beliefs and introduced me to self-love. Onsen taught me to treat my body with more kindness and reverence. I wish you all the same experience.

10 Japanese Spring Cleaning Lessons I Learned From My Mother-In-Law

Sharon Alphonso — Fri, 18 Mar 2022 01:00:00 +0000

If there’s one life lesson I’m grateful to my Japanese mother-in-law for teaching me, it would be about cleanliness. No matter how busy she is with work and family, she always finds the time to keep her home clean. Each corner serves a purpose, every bathroom tile scrubbed meticulously, and every book and file neatly stacked and organized. For her, cleaning is more than just a habit; it’s a therapeutic experience.

She believes that the best time to clean the entire house is before the year ends or just before spring. In the West, spring cleaning is quite common, and it is slowly gaining popularity in Japan as well. That’s when the weather gets warmer, energy levels rise and work gets done more quickly. Every carpet, showpiece and furniture item goes through a deep cleaning process.

She also incorporates the season’s color trends into the bedsheets, curtains, pillowcases and table mats. For those looking to give their home a fresh makeover, here are a few Japanese spring cleaning tips and everyday cleaning habits that my mother-in-law shared with me, and I am now sharing them with you. Let us make our homes a place of positivity and calmness, shall we?

1. Keep A New Pair Of Slippers In Each Room

I find it quite interesting that my Japanese mother-in-law keeps a pair of house slippers for each room. You will usually find them neatly kept on the balcony, the restroom and the bedrooms (except the tatami room). She believes that this prevents dirt from spreading between rooms. Having a pair of slippers dedicated to each room may sound like a lot of work, but once you get into the habit, you’ll sweep less and save time.

My mother-in-law recommends these cool dual-purpose mop slippers. You can walk around the house and clean the floor at the same time!

2. Toss An Old Item After Buying A New One

Although not Japan-specific, my mother-in-law taught me to discard an old outfit or item every time I buy a new one. As we accumulate more clothes and furniture in the house, we invite more clutter, which indirectly contributes to stress and anxiety. After implementing this new rule, my home and mind feel calmer and more relaxed.

3. Get Your Windows & Flyscreens Squeaky Clean

In winter and autumn, we keep our windows closed to keep out the cold and dust. You’ll want to do the opposite for spring. The sunshine, pink cherry blossom trees and pleasant temperature will tempt you to keep your windows open. Before you open them, wash the window panes and clean the window screens from all the dirt and pollen that accumulated over the colder weather. Continue to do so throughout the warmer weather. By doing so, fresh air will enter your house and fill your room with positive energy.

4. Wash Pans Immediately After Cooking

If you wish to save precious time in the kitchen, follow my mother-in-law’s genius tip on cleanliness. It involves quickly washing the dishes and pans soon after cooking. That way, you won’t have the kitchen in a mess or allow the dirty dishes to sit in the sink for long hours.

5. Do A Little Laundry Every Day

Laundry is one household chore many find overwhelming. Even though the washing machine does most of the work, folding and ironing the clothes still need to be done manually. I asked my mother-in-law for advice on this, and she suggested doing the laundry in small batches. Instead of washing all the clothes in one go, try washing them in smaller batches two-three times a week. It will be less exhausting and give you time to focus on other tasks.

My mother-in-law is obsessed with these detergent capsules. The fun-looking product works well for removing stubborn stains from clothing.

6. Check Your Fridge For Spoiled Food Once A Week

Each ingredient in your refrigerator comes with an expiry date. Whether it’s meat, vegetables, milk, juices or fruits, weekly checkups will allow you to keep tabs on the freshness. My mother-in-law also recommends purchasing a few food ingredients at a time to prevent unnecessary splurging and wasting.

7. Clean Your Room The First Thing In The Morning

Avoid reaching out for your phone first thing in the morning. Instead, make your bed, clean your room and meditate for a few minutes instead. According to my mother-in-law, this cleaning habit will make you feel organized, disciplined and accomplished. Not to mention that cleaning your room can also improve your mental health and mood.

8. Spray Antibacterial Fabric Spray On Your Clothes

The past few years have taught us to sanitize almost everything our fingers touch. However, my mother-in-law takes it up the notch by spraying everyone’s clothes with an antibacterial fabric spray before entering the house. She believes germs are less likely to spread from your clothes to furniture and other parts of the home when you do this.

My mother-in-law enjoys using this ‌antibacterial spray for the couch and clothes. It doesn’t give off that unpleasant alcohol scent, nor does it stain the fabric.

9. Avoid Getting Attached To Material Things

My mother-in-law once told me people let go of material things once they realize they only provide temporary happiness. When something has served its purpose, one must thank it and part ways with it for good. Anything that weighs heavily on our emotions needs to go. This goes for old letters, boxes, gift wrapping paper, obsolete gadgets and antiques.

10. Add A Splash Of Color To Your Home

In Japan, it’s common for people to change their wardrobe and house decorating style depending on the season. In contrast to winter’s deep color palette, my mother-in-law recommends light pastels for spring. She suggests keeping an eye out for cheerful house decor items such as lemon yellow, powder blue, creamy mint, lilac mulberry and baby pink.

You can shop for stylish and aesthetic house decor items from H&M Home, Francfranc, Zara Home, Covent Garden Bazaar & Ikea.

I know my Japanese mother-in-law’s spring cleaning tips may feel like a lot to take in. However, it gets better with practice and patience. Once regular house cleaning becomes a habit, you’ll experience higher energy levels, improved concentration and better sleep. In time, cleaning will seem less of a chore and more of a second nature to you.